I’m a firm believer that there are things that need to be said. Especially if you have a strong reaction about something.
You could spend years and years bottling up a hurt or an offense that was really just a misunderstanding, but you didn’t say anything, so you don’t know.
And, believe me, I know that it’s not always easy to say what you need to say. Nor is it always a good idea to just go running your mouth about everything. But if your gut is screaming at you that something doesn’t feel right, and you ignore it – you’re just asking for trouble down the road.
A few months ago I came across a gig for a newly formed company. The founder had some serious chops – and she was looking for a go-to wordpress person. Sounded like a dream.
We chatted, it seemed like a good fit, and we agreed to move forward.
Then she asked if she could use some of my work in the company portfolio. And that made me just feel ick. But I didn’t say a word.
Later she asked me to help her finish up the company site – and I said sure. But I didn’t want to because I was still feeling ick about the previous request. But I still didn’t say a word.
In the end, we parted ways. Because I was still not cool with her request, and she was annoyed with me because I didn’t do what I said I would do.
And now that I’m removed from the situation, I’m fairly certain that she didn’t mean for me to be offended by her request. And if we’d just talked it out, things might have turned out differently. But because I didn’t say anything, I’ll never know.
Please tell me I’m not the only one who does this kind of stuff…