I’m about to turn 39. I’m not telling you this so that you’ll send birthday wishes my way – but because a couple of days ago it hit me hard.
And it’s totally not that I’m that much closer to 40. Really. I’m not scared of 40, like I was of 30. I understand now that it’s just a number. And to be truthful, 40 has a whole lot more power than 30 does.
When you are 20, or even 30, people still think you are young. They don’t pay attention to what you have to say. And they certainly don’t think you know what you are talking about. But when you hit 40, people believe that you’ve got the chops to have gotten there.
So, the thing that hit me hard…
It’s that not everyone gets to 39.
In the last two weeks, I know of two 17 year old boys who have gone on from this life. And I think if you could ask either one of them – it was not something that they really wanted.
When I was 13, my friend Brad died of Leukemia. At 16, Jason was killed in a car accident. At 28 or so, Darrin lost his battle with cancer. And Jen died two years ago at 35. A girl I went to high school with was hit by a car three years ago, and another guy who was a year ahead of me died in a car accident last year.
Now, I’m a few days off – so maybe even I won’t make it to 39. Or maybe I won’t make it to 40.
But thinking about these boys who have gone on so young, and all of the people I’ve loved who didn’t make it as far as I have, made me realize one thing.
They had dreams. They had goals. They had ambitions. And they no longer have the chance to pursue them. They quite literally have run out of time.
But I haven’t. Not yet. And if I don’t pursue my dreams and ambitions with every tiny bit of my soul, it’s like I’m slapping them in the face.
I’m still here. I’m not done. I’ve got things to do. And quite frankly, I”m not doing them.
At the moment, I’m trading dollars for hours just to get by. Just to barely get by. I feel like I can’t stop doing what I’m doing because then I won’t even be getting that far.
And I know I’m not the only one stuck in this rut. This is what happens in life when we get complacent. When we let things get easy.
So, this is it. I’m not quitting my web design business. I’m not firing all my clients and going off grid. But I am changing the way I’m doing things.
I said on Facebook last week that I was tired of designing websites. That wasn’t true. I’m not. But I am tired of working the way I’m currently working. No longer will I be taking low-paying clients just to pay the bills.
And, I’m going to be taking a big jump, and develop a program on how to DIY your website. Set for release on January 1st.
If there is one thing I want you to understand…it’s this.
You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.