There are going to be times in your life when you (quite literally) pour everything you’ve got into something that you want very badly. And due to circumstances beyond your control (I hate to admit that I can’t control everything), you do not, in fact, get what you want.

How do you deal with that disappointment and overwhelming feeling of failure?

Well, if you are me, you sit around and pout. Because that’s exactly what I did. You appreciate the people who stop when they see you to tell you that you did a great job. And you especially love those people who take the time to text or call just to make sure you are doing okay.

After a day or two of pouting, you get mad. Really, really mad. Because you know that you did an amazing job trying to change minds – and the cause was more than worthy. How could people be so blind?

That lasts for a couple of days, and then you move into determination. Because you are absolutely sure that the thing you want is worth it enough that you decide it’s time to stop being a baby and start the regrouping process.

And the very last thing that happens is that you realize it all happened for a reason. You may not understand that reason yet – but you know, deep in your bones, that you had a lesson to learn from the whole process…that truly, experience is exactly what you get when you don’t get what you want.

And sometimes, that’s the better thing to get.